Know nonverbal modes of communication

Non-verbal ways of communication give us moreinformation than speech. It is through the body language that we express our true emotions. People who have mastered this can easily identify deception. But some are able to take control of most of their gestures and deceive even a lie detector. Although such people are extremely few.

Verbal and non-verbal ways of communication

The modern person utters the order every day30 thousand words. Speech is a verbal means of communication. There are several types of speech activity: speaking, listening / listening, writing and reading. Types of non-verbal communication are gestures, postures, intonations, facial expressions, views, position in space, etc.

Kinesthetics includes pantomimics, facial expressions andgestures. She considers the external aspect of the manifestation of emotions and feelings. Movement with the head and hands is the most ancient way of communication. Today, sign language has been thoroughly studied, there are even books on "reading" the true meaning of a person's words depending on his involuntary movements. Each people uses gesticulation differently. So, the Finns use this type of communication per hour about once, the Italians 80 times, and the Mexicans 180.

Mimicry, i.e., movement of the facial muscles, is the main indicator of the senses. Without this component, that is, when talking, when we do not see the person's face, about 10-15% of all information is lost. All the movements of the muscles in the emotional states are coordinated. The main informative load is on the lips and eyebrows.

Visual contact is also extremely important. If you are rarely and briefly looked at, this can mean that they lie to you. But in order to correctly recognize the lie, it is important to take into account other non-verbal forms of communication. The view can be business (concentration on the forehead of the interlocutor), social (triangle between the mouth and eyes), intimate (at the chest level).

Pantomimics includes such non-verbal wayscommunication, like gait, posture, postures and general motor skills. The gait varies in rhythm, dynamics and amplitude. This indicator can be judged both on the state of health, and about the character, mood and age of a person. The suffering gait is listless, the joyful - light, the proud - sweeping. It is noticed that people who keep their hands on their hips strive to achieve their goals in the shortest possible time.

There are about a thousand stable postures, each of whichwhich shows how a person perceives their own status in relation to the situation of others. A relaxed situation is inherent in people who have achieved a lot. The pose can talk about openness or closure.

In a word, studying non-verbal waysyou can easily understand what your interlocutor wants. You will rarely succumb to provocation, learn in most cases to recognize lies and insincerity. These skills will be useful in any circumstances: both in negotiations and in personal life. We often need to make decisions about how to continue to maintain relationships, in which way to conduct a conversation, etc. Knowledge of the basics will help you find answers to most of your questions. The main thing is practice and apply knowledge.